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So Long 2017!

This year has been a huge mixed bag for me.

January had a trip to Breckenridge with The Beer Guy, then rats (!), then moving in with aforementioned Beer Guy.

You’re welcome for posting this picture and not a different January memory.

February, I turned 40 and published my first book (The Cardinal Gate is currently on sale for $0.99 – get yours today!)

Look at this magnificent cake that my friend Melissa made for me? How could it get any better than this?

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In March, we celebrated the Beer Guy’s birthday, and I spent a lot of time with friends.

Please enjoy this dramatic reenactment of the Beer Guy’s birthday karaoke, in which I failed to actually get him in the picture.

In April, Alvie Bean turned five. I can’t even with that information, and that was months ago. I also started a new job!

In May, the Beer Guy and I went to the coast, where I started the outline for what will be the Oracle Bay series (due out Fall 2018).

RIP, that necklace whose pendant is lost.

June was amazing. I got to see NKOTB (and I TOUCHED JOEY JOE MCINTYRE!) and then, at the end of the month, The Waning Moon came out!

That is Joey McIntyre and my hand. TOUCHING!

July…existed? I was hard at work on Ruby Blade, got to know a lot of new, cool author friends better, and my mom came to visit and took the kiddo to the coast.

I love this kid like whoa.

August was busy AF. I did my first (and only!) book reading/signing at a local bookstore, and then, courtesy the Beer Guy, had champagne after with an assortment of my favorite local people!

There was also an eclipse and a kittening.

This is my “what? another motherfucking swear word?” face

Alvie with Rupurrt Giles

In September, my boy started school and had his first ER visit in 4 years!

First day of kindergarten!

In October, Alvie started a new kindergarten (he’d been on the waitlist for the Spanish Immersion kindergarten and we got a place at the last possible moment) and the Beer Guy & I went to Puerto Vallarta with his family. I have zero pictures of us together in Mexico, but I swear we were there! Last, but not least, I released my third (3rd!) book, The Ruby Blade (on the best of all holidays, Halloween.)

First day of kindergarten, take 2

This is the only picture I have of us together. I am in it only by virtue of having taken the photo.

Tiny Captain Picard!

November…was kind of a shit show.  Presumably good things happened. There was Thanksgiving? And a triumphant return to karaoke after a couple months off. And no one got expelled, and I had my first ER visit in 4 years!

I need a scribe. And a chauffeur. And a butler. And a pool boy.

And now – this year is nearly done. The last 2.5 months have been some of the hardest months I’ve endured in ages. The last 2.5 years have been hard. I’m so, so lucky to have so many bright spots.

I have three books published, and plans to publish 4 next year. I have an up-and-coming freelance business and my calendar is almost full for the first half of 2018. I have a dayjob that pays me in money, a healthy kid who is hopefully losing his first tooth right now, and a patient, wonderful partner who has put up with a lot of shit this year and swears he’s sticking around.

GAH! This guy! (Also, are we or are we not cute AF?)

I’m really looking forward to 2018. I’ve got some big goals for next year, and I’m looking forward to sharing them with you!

I hope your holiday season has been filled with light, happiness, and the family of your choosing. See you next year!

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It’s My Birthday!

I  made it! I’m forty! I rang in the beginning of my fifth decade at karaoke last night and have spent the entirety of today watching true crime, ordering minions to bring me burritos, and thinking about what the next years are going to bring.

I feel good about everything I accomplished in the last year. It was definitely a bumpy year, but there were enough good things to offset the bad.

I started talking last night about doing a 50 before 50…that’s approximately five things a year, and is doable.

Some of the ideas I’m tossing around come from the unfinished items on my 40 before 40, some come from my life list, and some are brand new.

On the list so far:

  1. Go to Romania (book research!)
  2. Finish a 50K trail race
  3. Find a satisfying job
  4. Publish at least two books/year
  5. Make my health (physical and mental) a priority
  6. Get that Iceland photo framed

  1. Meet my PSM in real life
  2. Be my own boss (this seems to directly contradict #3, but it doesn’t…)
  3. Survive the Bean’s early teenage years.
  4. Get rid of all debt (excepting the student loan and any mortgage stuff)

 

I’ll keep working on the list, but if you have any suggestions, let me know!

And now, it must be French 75 time!

Mmmm….French 75

 

Here’s to another great year!

Three Things Thursday – Amyeve Edition

  1. It is the eve of that most blessed of holidays – Amymas. Tonight is the night that I come down your chimney, drink the French 75 that you’ve left out for me, and also take all the gifts you’ve left out for me. (It was suggested to me that the leavers of gifts and gin weren’t getting anything in return, but I maintain the satisfaction of appeasing an Amy is return enough. Also, if you leave me more than 2 French 75s, I will totally make out with you. So, plan accordingly.)
  2. One of the biggest items on my 40 before 40 list was to publish a novel. Although I didn’t quite get it in before my birthday, the fact that you can totally preorder the book means I still win.
  3. Last night, I took Alvie to a movie. Although it wasn’t his first movie theater experience, it was my first theater experience with him. We saw the Lego Batman movie at our local theater. Alvie got to  have pizza, popcorn, and juice. He announced to me that this was my birthday present from him. So generous, that one. (But really, not a bad mother/son birthday experience. I would’ve preferred that he gave me the gift of suddenly figuring out how to read and a burning to desire to shake mama the perfect martini, but there’s always next year…)

Too Many Words Wednesday

Remember yesterday when I was full of hope and optimism and had finished my digital book uploads and all was beautiful?

 

Yeah. So about that…

I got the proof of my paperback today and didn’t quite like the way the margins worked. It’s another 24 hour turnaround to make the changes, upload it, and make sure it looks right then proof again, but I’ve got time.

I fixed the margins. Swore for a bit. Then, I noticed something…odd. There was a typo. And another. And an extra space. And a couple names spelled wrong once each. And three end quotes facing the wrong direction. And then more things! And more! AND MOAR!

 

I have decided that everything is fixed now. I made changes, uploaded new digital files for the ebooks, and resubmitted the paperback for review. Funny story? Approximately 10 seconds after resubmitting the paperback file I saw ANOTHER error. It is admittedly a very, very small error. I was able to fix it in the ebooks, but I’m thinking that the paperbacks might just have one, eensy, weensy mistake. For character.

 

I see typos in most books that I read. They exist. I’m great at finding other people’s errors. But there is no way to 100% eradicate all typos, right? RIGHT?!

(I may have to fix the paperback file. I am ahead of schedule with it, so what’s one more change?)

 

***abrupt subject change***

Did you know that it’s only two days until my birthday? Did you? Well, if you were wondering what the perfect thing to get me forty 40th (such a milestone!) birthday, maybe go check this out…

40 Before 40 – Final Progress Report

I will be forty in 23 days. TWENTY-THREE. DAYS.

There are days that I feel old, but most of the time I have trouble reconciling the number forty with how I feel.

The last thirteen months have been some of the hardest of my life. Between separation, divorce, job loss, and no job found…it’s been stressful to say the least.

I didn’t get through my list of 40. Some of that is due to financial constraints (I shot my wad on the big one – going to Iceland) and some is due to the inability to do things because of depression and anxiety.

You know what, though? I don’t care. There were some stretch goals on there. I’m not going to rehash everything I didn’t do, but I’m going to show you what I did do.

  1. Attend a live concert
  2. Climb a tree
  3. Go to the local nude beach
  4. Go to the opera
  5. Sing a new song at karaoke
  6. Take a barre class
  7. Take a cooking class
  8. Funky hair color
  9. Try hot yoga
  10. Volunteer
  11. Do a fun thing with Bean every day of his summer vacation
  12. Rosé in the garden in July
  13. Make a cheese that needs to age 10 months and eat it on my 40th birthday
  14. [Redacted]
  15. Become passable in Swedish (I’m still doing lessons!)
  16. Develop a habit of meditation
  17. Get back into my DIY habits –bread, stock, cheese, jam, etc.
  18. Perfect the homemade pie crust.
  19. Take a good photo
  20. Try 12 new cheeses
  21. Drink a bottle of expensive champagne
  22. Get a stamp in my passport
  23. Meet three ‘in the computer friends’ in real life. (Still waiting on my PSM)
  24. Publish my first book – this should happen this month or very soon after depending on how long it takes me to format stuff. (If anyone is interested in an ARC, let me know!)

So – twenty-four of forty things. That’s not a great success rate, but I’m really happy about how much I managed to do even when I was so anxious I could barely leave the house. I don’t plan on hitting any of the missing 16 items in the next 23 days. My primary goals for February are to get my book out and find a goddamn job. Oh – and to turn 40. Of course.

Don’t worry – I have a whole list of things I’m planning on accomplishing in the next year (although maybe not 41 things…). Stay tuned for all the ways I’m going to be awesome next year.